Patricia Gould
In 1990 psychologists Peter Salovey and John May introduced the term Emotional Intelligence (EI). Then in 1995, Daniel Goleman wrote a best-selling book that made the idea popular around the world.
When most people think about intelligence, they picture grades, test scores, or the ability to solve problems quickly. But there’s another kind of intelligence that often matters even more in daily life—emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage both our own emotions and the emotions of others. Unlike IQ, which measures cognitive ability, emotional intelligence reflects how well we navigate relationships, communicate, and respond to life’s challenges.
There are several key components to emotional intelligence. First, self-awareness—being honest with yourself about what you’re feeling. Then there’s self-control, or not letting frustration or anger drive your actions. Empathy is another one, because it allows us to really tune in to others. Also, good communication skills help us express ourselves clearly while also listening with respect.
We can practice EI in a few ways:
• Take a slow, deep breath when you feel stressed.
• Listen carefully to others without rushing to reply.
• Share a memory or story that brings comfort.
• Offer a kind word or a gentle smile.
What Daniel Goleman described almost 30 years ago, many of us have already been practicing all our lives—through patience, kindness, and the wisdom that comes with time.
Patricia Gould is a Reiki Master of the Usui System of Natural Healing. She also teaches Zen Meditation here in SaddleBrooke on Fridays from 9 to 10 a.m. To register, contact introductiontozenmeditation@gmail.com.
The next First Degree Reiki class held in her home is on Oct. 24 and 25 from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. For further information and to register, visit the website TheReikiWay.com. Patricia can be reached at 808-281-9001.