Suzanne Marlatt Stewart
Here’s what I’ve learned that people really want from us: They want us to put down our phones when they’re talking. They want us to ask, “How are you feeling about that?” instead of immediately offering solutions. They want us to remember the small things they mentioned last week. They want us to laugh at their bad jokes and sit with them in silence when words aren’t enough.
These days, when my daughter calls, I don’t multitask. I sit down, sometimes even close my eyes, and just listen. I ask questions instead of giving answers. I share my own struggles when they’re relevant, not as lessons but as companionship.
There is a very simple heartfelt phrase that is very meaningful in our relationships with others. It is “I see you.”
In everyday conversations this phrase “I see you” can carry many meanings. It might seem straightforward at first, but this expression often holds deeper significance especially emotionally and spiritually.
It can promote communications, foster connection, and possibly reveal underlying feelings. It is more than a casual acknowledgement. It can be an affirmation of recognition, understanding or validation.
Different Interpretations
1. Validation. When you say the phrase “I see you’ you are acknowledging a person’s presence, their efforts and you appreciate who they are. It promotes trust and emotional safety. An example: ”I appreciate your dedication to this project.”
2. Empathy and Heartfelt Listening. It is true you may not fully understand someone else’s emotions but rather you are truly listening and doing your best to understand what the other person is experiencing with acceptance and no judgement. An example:”I can see you are struggling and I am here for you.”
3. Authenticity Recognition. In a spiritual sense “I see you” might imply that I recognize the divine in you. This means perceiving the person’s true nature, their soul or essence. An example:”I can see who you truly are beyond your behavior.”
4. Connection. In close relationships this phrase can be a sign of emotional intimacy. Being aware of each other’s needs and feelings. This can promote vulnerability and trust. An example: I accept you and truly honor your feelings.”
If someone says to you “I see you”, consider how that makes you feel.
I think it is important to acknowledge and consider a reply , like “thank you, that means a lot to me.” Another possibility is, ”I am glad you recognize that I have been going through a lot lately.”
I believe it is so important to connect with each other. It can serve as a powerful affirmation of acceptance, recognition, empathy, and authenticity. Our need to connect has never been greater. The simple phrase “I see you” to me is an act of kindness. Sharing this phrase with another is also extending the kindness to yourself. It is a situation where everyone wins.
Suzanne, a resident of SaddleBrooke is an independent writer and speaker. Email: spiritualoccasions@outlook.com.